How does a couple decide what to do about last names?
I like Brian's last name, but I think I'd miss mine. There's the option of hyphenation, but it gets a little long; plus his-plus-mine sounds a lot like Basket. Nope; not gonna happen. So then reverse the order? What about Bri: does he just get to keep his name as-is? That hardly seems fair.
Could we just choose an entirely new name? What's that game where you take a word or phrase and rearrange the letters to spell something new? All I can figure out is Takesbat. I think we should make up something completely different. Like MoonUnit. Or FTW (for the win). Or Smith, and we'll pretend we're secret agents.
I guess we have some time for this particular quandry.
Let me share some of my wisdom and a few non traditional options
ReplyDeleteOption A - Keep it
I always thought I'd take my husbands last name. Maybe it's the tradition, maybe it's the idea of having a "family name" for the whole group when you begin to churn out babies. Regardless, when my husband and I discussed it, he told me to keep mine for a few reasons:
a) the name ends with my generation
b) I'd had it for 30 years and he suspected I was attached
c) I'm from Quebec where they don't change names
d) his exact words "If you were a nobody, it would make sense, but you're Mel f*#king Tayler, I mean c'mon"
So I decided to keep mine.
Option B - both of you take another name
A friend of mine and his wife both took his grandmother's maiden name. She had raised him and the name also ended with her generation, so they wanted to carry it on.
Option C - Create a hybrid
My sister and her husband became the McClaylers, hybrid of both their names. Kenaas or Baasent could be lovely options.
I think my favorite is option b. It's like the honour of naming your first born after someone x1000.